You are a Writer
You are an author
You are a Novelist
In other News: Writing Day 14 – What would you say the difference was between these three people? Here are “official” answers here and here. I’ve noticed that considering yourself to be one of these people is one of the most difficult things for us to do. Jeff Goins said in his book You are a Writer that to get himself to start believing it, he would add the word “writer” to everything. I did that too, but sometimes I still wonder. It was when I heard two friends refer to me as a writer (at different times), I started to believe it a little more. Believing what other people have said about me is an awful habit I picked up in childhood, and still accosts me sometimes. This is one of the only times it worked in my favor.
According to one of those “official” answers, I’m more of an author, but – I think I will always refer to myself as a writer. If I could ever be a novelist, that would be such a fun dream, but I do think you have to be able to write a story!
Who are you?
In other news: Writing Day 13 – Here are just a few of the rules that I found for writers when I did a search online. Most of them are pretty reasonable, some of them I would even say are good advice, but every single one of these rules are not for me. Every single one of these rules are probably not for you either.
Have you ever read the book or seen the movie Cider House Rules? Remember the theme there? Do you remember the one catch about the Cider House Rules?
The person who wrote the rules had never lived in the cider house.
Am I saying that the person who wrote all of the above rules are not writers? No. What I am saying is that the person reading this right now is the only one who knows what rules will work out.
Write your own rules.
No one knows what works for your mind, your heart and your life like you do.
Make your own rules.
Own your own rules.
Live by the rules that you have determined best work for your writer’s life.
Sometimes you will have to break your rules…
And make new ones
The only rule you should not break?
Writer’s Groups often offer support, information and networking.
I personally don’t have much experience with writing groups. I write alone. When I’m having some fun with fiction, my characters keep me company, but I have never work shopped any fiction.
Despite not having experience with a writing group, I do know that having the right writing group can be a very positive change in a writer’s life. I will be linking you to a writer who has had group experiences and wrote about them to share with us! First things first though – why write within a group? This page features a handy list of reasons why you might want to join a writing group.
Writing groups are great because they:
If you are interested in joining or starting a writing group, I would advise you to check out all of Krystina Pecorari -McBride’s page, and then do some research on your own.
What should you look for in fellow group members?
What should you avoid?
What is the perfect number for a group?
What should be the guidelines on critiquing,
How do you deal when someone stops giving constructive criticism and starts reliving how they felt about their Significant Other flaking out on them all over your work?!
When I first started doing research on the topics to write about, I saw that being part of a writing group was looked upon favorably. The writer that I was reading shared an online group with his readers, that I had never heard of. I entered it into good ole Google and the first link I saw was “[said writing group] ruined my life” I clicked on it and there were many other links that explained the story. The last link was advice on how to gather evidence for their lawyer! As wonderful as they can be, writing groups are NOT for everyone.
So with the no experience with groups that I have, the pinch of advice that I can give you is to use your noggin (brain)! You want to bring good things to your writing. That does not necessarily mean you’re going to try to find a group that only massages your ego. Sometimes criticism hurts, well – most times, but if the criticism will help your words, then it will help after it hurts for a moment. On the other hand, don’t be anyone’s punching bag. That is not right.
If you feel that joining a writer’s group is for you – go for it!
Have you ever written as part of a writing group?
Can you offer any advice about writer’s groups?